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Thinking about how to change your mindset might bring on eye rolls, but shifting how you view your annoying (or debilitating) symptoms can have a huge impact on your quality of life.
No one is spared from things in life that cause suffering. And yes, living with chronic skin problems, including Topical Steroid Withdrawal (TSW), can seriously damage your confidence and self-worth.
I’ve often heard from clients that how their day will go is dictated by what their skin will decide to do. And while I understand the challenge inherent to the unpredictability of your skin, allowing external factors like your skin to have such enormous control over your mindset and daily experience sets you up for failure.
And with time, you likely will start to feel victimized by your skin (and other symptoms) and rather powerless.
Joining me to discuss mindset growth, healthier emotional habits, and more is Brad Bizjack. Brad is a personal development expert and a master mindset strategist who has a decade of experience in igniting human potential. His mission is to awaken individuals to their limitless possibilities and empower them to create the extraordinary success and freedom they deserve no matter their circumstances or health.
After working with 60,000 people, Brad is renowned for his ability to shatter mediocrity and inspire profound, lasting change. He excels in uncovering the limiting beliefs and toxic thoughts that lurk in the shadows of the mind, unlocking the doors to unprecedented achievement and fulfillment.
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In This Episode:
- Stories you tell yourself that DESTROY your mindset growth
- What exactly is mindset?
- How to change your mindset (that’s more effective)
- When you allow your skin to dictate how you feel
- Strategies to create an open mindset aligned with healing
- The formula for happiness
Quotes
“You've had worthiness since the moment you were born. No skin condition, no amount of results, no success, no anything will ever make you more worthy than you already are. Never. And if you think that for some reason the way your skin looks makes you a better or worse person, or more enough or less enough, you're giving your personal power away to something that should not be dictating how you live your life.”
“There are gifts in every bit of negativity you could ever experience, because contrast creates clarity.”
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361: How To Change Your Mindset (So Your Skin Doesn’t Control Your Mood) w/ Brad Bizjack {FULL TRANSCRIPT}
Jennifer Fugo (00:15.917)
Brad, I'm so excited to have you here to talk about how to change your mindset. Thank you for joining us today on the show.
Brad Bizjack (00:20.072)
Thanks so much for having me. I'm pumped to be here and to serve your audience.
Jennifer Fugo (00:23.297)
I know, because one of the things that we've always talked about is the importance of how we can show up for our best selves and have a health mindset, especially when you're struggling with any type of health issues. I feel like how to change your mindset is a broad topic that a lot of people get wrong, a lot of people get wrong. And they go into it with these weird ideas that they've read about in books or they've seen on podcasts, and they come to find those strategies don't work. And I don't think you can just choose your mindset about things. I think there's a whole process that helps you be and show up better for yourself on your health journey, no matter what your health issues are.
So let's talk a little bit about how to change your mindset and the stories that we tell ourselves because I, on my health journey, and I find this a lot with clients, we really struggle with this idea that this happened, therefore I experienced X equals Y and therefore I can't do anything anymore. This is the truth that I have experienced, and there's no talking around that or changing my mind because I experienced it. And I've lived this personally with chronic back issues, it's something that I've had to do a lot of work around. And so what is that? I mean, I know it's a story that we tell ourselves, but what is that at the end of the day? What is this of the human experience that sets the stage for a lot of other pieces of the puzzle?
Brad Bizjack (02:09.856)
That's a great question. First of all, I wanna talk about one thing you said just a minute ago about mindset and how fluffy of an idea that is. The minute I hear the word mindset, I'm just kinda like, I almost roll my eyes and just like, yeah, whatever, right? Because a lot of people will say, okay, yeah, just be positive and everything's gonna work out, but that's not the case, right? So these stories, it's much deeper than just, okay, this isn't gonna work for me. What's actually happening is there's a subconscious automated belief system that's going on that's causing you to stay in your pattern of safety. I'll give you an example. Let's do an easy example first. The sky, a lot of people think it's blue, right? Sky is blue. But what about during a sunrise, or a sunset, or at night, or when it's storming, or when it's about to rain, or the scientific answer that it's not any color, right? A lot of people think that the sky is blue.
And so what happens is after we've had a consistent experience of some sort of pain, or we've had an exposure to some sort of trauma, or something different happens in our life, a belief is formed. And a belief is nothing more than a feeling of certainty about what something means. That's all it is. But whatever you believe reinforces itself. You will literally surround yourself with the same people. You will be in certain environments where you feel like you can't change, and the actions that could allow you to change all of a sudden get inflated as things that are incredibly scary, when all that's happening is you're trying to stay safe with your existing belief system. Because the devil you know how to deal with is way easier to deal with than the devil you don't know how to deal with. So on a more tactical or tangible level, if I have a belief that I'm broken and my skin issues will never change. If you think about that belief system, that's operating my entire being. That's the subconscious of me and that is informing every emotion I feel, it's informing every thought I think, it's informing every decision I make.
And so from there, the level of potential to change is very little. You could have the right strategies on how to change, but you won't wanna do it because it goes against what you believe and what you feel is safe. So then the actions you take are minimal. You'll dabble in something or you'll try something once and say you've tried everything. So then the results that you get are limited, and when you get limited results, it reinforces the belief systems that you already have. And so it gets stronger, it turns into a conviction, and next thing you know, you're saying I've tried everything when really you've tried two things inconsistently. And I'm not saying that with any sort of judgment to anybody, I'm saying that because it's what I used to live. Most people, they fight to keep their existing belief systems, they're limiting stories about why it's harder or how other people don't understand. When successful, people that experience change, they're people that consistently question their beliefs. They question if it's true. They question if this feeling of certainty is serving them. And so a story is just a feeling of certainty based on previous experiences that keeps you safe.
Jennifer Fugo (05:18.021)
So the story, essentially, is something that develops over time to keep you safe, is what you're essentially referring to.
Brad Bizjack (05:26.528)
There's a couple of ways to look at it. There are extreme circumstances that can cause beliefs to form, right? If some sort of trauma happens, the brain will link up what's different in that moment. For example, if you go through, let's go not related to skin, but let's say you go through childhood abuse, and you link up something in that moment about who you need to be to be worthy of love. From extremes, beliefs can form. From consistent results, beliefs can form. From consistent experiences over and over and over again, beliefs can form.
A funny way of illustrating this, or at least I think it's funny, is let's say that you go to a party with friends. And to sound funnier than you are, you're telling a story and you exaggerate that story to get more laughs, more attention, and it works. You get the attention and the next thing you know, you're like, wow, I did a good job telling that story. So the next thing you know, it's two weeks later, a month later, you come back to a party with friends and you exaggerate the details of a story again. They're more inflated, but this time you say them with more conviction and more certainty. And it happens again and again and again to where next thing you know, it's five years into the future, you have shared the story over and over and over again in an inflated way, and you don't even know what part of the story is real or not anymore.
That's how beliefs typically form. They happen from repeating a thought, a belief is just a thought habit, over and over and over again until it becomes a conviction in your psyche. When really it's just a feeling of certainty that, if you bring doubt to that, or pain to continuing to live with that, all of a sudden you can start to change it.
Jennifer Fugo (07:06.941)
So I just want to be clear here. The belief informs a conviction, possibly, that then turns into a story, yes?
Brad Bizjack (07:17.886)
The belief turns into a conviction which then informs your actions.
Jennifer Fugo (07:21.755)
Informs actions. And then where does mindset or mindset growth fall into all of this, or is it a hierarchy?
Brad Bizjack (07:30.45)
Mindset is literally just a blanket concept. Like if you think about what someone's psyche is made of, there's your environment. A lot of people think my environment, I don't just mean your physical environment around you, but if you take a look at the results you're getting in your life, particularly with skin in this example. The results you're getting in your life, how you think about those results, that is part of your mindset. If you think about the behaviors and why you act a certain way to get those results or not get the results you want, that's part of mindset. If you think about what you consume on an ongoing basis, I'm not talking about just food, but also material that comes in your eyes and your ears, that's part of mindset. The emotions you live with, the beliefs that you have, the identity you hold for yourself, all of these things are in this overarching principle of mindset, but it's huge. It's just what goes on behind the scenes subconsciously that causes your actions and therefore your results.
Jennifer Fugo (08:18.084)
It's huge! So first of all, I was starting to get overwhelmed in listening to that ginormous list of things. I was like, oh my gosh, it seems like a lot to figure out how to change your mindset and make a meaningful, lasting impact on mindset growth. And my guess would be that you really can't be that effective trying to just change your mindset. What are some things, and maybe where should we start in this whole process to understand how to change your mindset at a deeper level mindset? It sounds like your mindset, in and of itself, is probably not the place to start.
Brad Bizjack (09:04.722)
It's not. So I'll start with the behaviors that you are using to try to change your life. Have you ever noticed that some people, they'll try to start a habit or a routine or something, and they do really well for a week or two, but then they fall off track? They don't stick with it. Well, that's because most people are trying to change their behaviors. Nothing wrong with changing your behaviors. It's a beautiful thing to change your behaviors. All of life is cause and effect, and if you want a different effect, you have to change the cause.
But what most people do, they obsess over the effect. They obsess over how their skin looks, they obsess over what people perceive them as, they obsess over these external things, and they think that causes how they feel, when it doesn't. It's how you've been living up until this point that impacts the results. So what most people go and do is they just try to change their behavior. They try to form a new habit. They try to stick with a program or a curriculum. And most people that try to do that end up falling off track. But because it's uncomfortable to fail, what most people do is they create a story that keeps them safe. And so you said, where do I start? You start with the beliefs and the emotions that cause you to stick with or not stick with an action. That's the place to start. And the challenge is, it's very uncomfortable to do that. Because if you are looking at a belief that causes you to take an action or not take an action, typically that belief stems from pain in most situations.
If you look at emotions, if you take a look at, let's say, doing something empowering to change your skin. Well, if you're in, let's say, a state of anxiety or depression versus a state of gratitude and love, just as two examples, one of those two is gonna be much more likely to get you better results. But most people have no idea how to navigate the emotions of life, and they feel that they can't change because they're experiencing these emotions, and so they push these emotions away, and they don't let themselves feel, which caused them to stay in this bubble and stay stuck. And so when you want to know how to change your mindset, I would start with changing the beliefs, changing the emotions. When you change those, the actions and the behaviors and the habits will automatically change.
Jennifer Fugo (11:10.198)
And you bring up a really interesting point about this emotional, like “I don't want to feel the uncomfortable feelings.” I don't want to use the word bad, because I think we oftentimes get into too much black-and-white thinking, especially around, everything related to food, diet, healing… everything, it's all black and white thinking. But there's a lot of gray, which I think is really beautiful when you realize that there's a lot of instances where it depends.
But one thing that came up for me as you were talking is, I've had a lot of clients who literally say, my day is determined by what my skin decides to do. So if I wake up today and my skin decides to go into a flare up, my day's over. It's like game over from 10:30 a.m. or 8:30 a.m. onward. It's game over, my whole day is ruined. But if I wake up tomorrow and my skin is doing well, I'm having a great day. And I would argue, but I'm not an expert like you are in this state or in this space, I would argue that that's probably not the best way to allow your skin to dictate your emotional state and may want to think about how to change your mindset.
Can you speak a little bit to that where we're sort of allowing something else? And listen, I wanna just be really clear, I'm not minimizing the pain and the unpredictability of what can happen with health issues. But what do you say to somebody who is allowing their emotional state to be impacted by something else, essentially not their mind, not their being, it's something else? And I feel like the skin and health and all of these, they're kind of like external factors.
Brad Bizjack (13:06.768)
Great question. And do you have three and a half hours? No, I'm just kidding.
Jennifer Fugo (13:13.078)
I wish, that would be awesome.
Brad Bizjack (13:28.782)
I wish we could go for three and a half hours about mindset shifts and how to change your mindset effectively! Yes. First of all, I want to state something just to make sure everyone here feels seen, heard, and understood. I can imagine it's incredibly challenging. I can imagine feelings of confidence have been kind of brought down by what you've been experiencing. And it might even be where you're in the state of like, this is just the way it is. And it feels like it's so hard, it feels overwhelming. And it probably feels like there's not much you can do. But I want to speak to the highest version of you listening right now. Pain in life is guaranteed. Suffering is your choice. Pain in life is guaranteed. Suffering is your choice.
What most people do is they base their sense of worthiness, their sense of happiness, on what happens on the outside. That's called attachment. Attachment means I am my results. No, you're not. You have a heart that beats 100,000 times a day. You've had worthiness since the moment you were born. No skin condition, no amount of results, no success, no anything will ever make you more worthy than you already are. Never. And if you think that for some reason the way your skin looks makes you a better or worse person, or more enough or less enough, you're giving your personal power away to something that should not be dictating how you live your life.
But what it can do, is when you live in that state and you don't honor that you're already enough as you are, your confidence will go down, your vision of the future becomes very small, and the emotions you experience most regularly are those of pain. And your quality of your emotions is the quality of your life. Not the quality of your skin. The quality of your emotions is the quality of your life. Because, how many people do you know that have, I'm not saying in any way, shape, or form that the skin conditions that you're dealing with are not challenging. That's not what I'm saying. But the meaning you are giving to the skin conditions, you're making it mean something about you. That meaning is what dictates the quality of your life.
So let's say, just as an easy example to understand, let's say, Jen, you and I are going to a smoothie place, and I decide to open the door for you, and I say Jen, go in first, go in first. And you're very grateful, very happy that I open the door. Why? Is it because I open the door, or is it because of your interpretation of the gesture? Because I could open the door for you and you could take it to mean, I can get it myself, you pig, I don't need your help, right? Like, you would never do that, you're clearly a lovely human being, but the event never changed. The only thing that changed was the meaning.
And so I want everyone here to ask themselves, this skin condition, whatever you're dealing with, even though painful, what are you making it mean? Are you making it mean I'm not enough? I'll never be worthy? I'm not worthy of love? I don't deserve to have X, Y, Z? And from that meaning, what's the quality of your life going to be? The quality of your emotions is driven by the quality of your meanings you give to circumstances, because suffering is never found in the facts. Suffering is found in your perception of the facts. Everybody knows someone that's gone through really, really challenging times, way worse than we've gone through in any capacity, and they've come out on top. The reason is because of the meaning they've given to the circumstance.
And so most people don't realize this, but they've habituated a pattern of emotions they live with. Everyone has an emotional home they go back to. Like, have you ever noticed, angry people tend to find something to get angry about. Anxious people tend to find something to get anxious about. Depressed people tend to find something to get depressed about. But happy people find something to be happy about. Grateful people find something to be grateful about. Because everyone has their emotional home they go back to. And even if your house is messy and there's clothes laying around, you go back to that house. So it's time to do some renovations. And we need to start to see our emotions like a thermostat. Most people think that their emotions, their life, is a thermometer for what's going on, right? This is happening in my life, therefore I feel a certain way. And so their emotions are all over the board. But if you view your emotions like a thermostat, everyone has an emotional home they go back to. So let's say my goal is 100 degrees, right? And let's say that's love and gratitude, and that's my goal.
Jennifer Fugo (17:43.226)
Okay. Okay.
Brad Bizjack (17:44.627)
Well, if my emotional thermostat is set to 65 degrees, and that's anxiety and overwhelm, just as a hypothetical, well, something really, really tough could happen in my life. And the temperature could drop down to 20 degrees, depression, right? And we'll feel that feeling of depression, but then the furnace kicks on and it elevates the emotion back, but only to what you've set your thermostat to, only back to anxiety or overwhelm. But the opposite is also true. If things start going well, and it's 80 degrees, 90 degrees, things are going well. It can't be that good. So the AC kicks on and it lowers it back down to anxiety and overwhelm. And what most people don't recognize, the reason why this emotional thermostat never changes is because they're pushing away the sensations of what most people call negative emotions.
There are gifts in every bit of negativity you could ever experience, because contrast creates clarity. There is no day without night, right? And so if we start to, let's use the example of anxiety just as a hypothetical. In my past, when I noticed anxiety coming on, I used to get panic attacks, all these things. When it used to come on, I remember feeling, I just don't wanna deal with this, I don't wanna deal with this, and I would almost make it wrong, and I would push the emotion down. And I would distract myself with intellect, I'd distract myself with TV or food or whatever it is. And then I would find myself in this state where the emotion kind of built and built and built. It would turn into this monster where I'd find myself at two in the morning, stressed out, but I didn't want to wake up my wife because I didn't want to be perceived as weak. And I just suffered in silence alone.
Where if I were to just say, wow, I'm experiencing anxiety. I must care a lot about the future. And I welcome the uncomfortable emotion, then all of a sudden that emotion doesn't hold me anymore because it's no longer wrong, because whatever you resist persists. And so if you want to elevate that emotional thermostat, one of the greatest keys is to welcome every emotion, because every emotion serves you. And once you do, if you're experiencing, let's say you see your skin in the mirror one day and you feel, let's use the example of sadness. Most people distract themselves. I want to encourage you to experience it.
And once you experience it and express it, you can choose again. You can choose a different state or a different meaning or something. But from the lack of expression of emotion, it holds you back from ever moving forward, and you get trapped in this, just, ball of emotion, that either turns into you getting burnt out or stressed out, and then nothing changes in your life. And next thing you know, you're walking around saying, I just don't have the confidence and my skin dictates my day. It's not the skin that dictates your day, it's the meaning you're giving to your skin that dictates your day.
Jennifer Fugo (20:27.365)
Yeah. I will say that something you just shared, like you go home to whatever that emotion is that you're used to. You may have said it slightly more eloquently than I just did. But I would say my, probably, emotional home would be anger.
Brad Bizjack (20:50.881)
Mm, okay.
Jennifer Fugo (20:53.959)
And I know, thanks to almost two years of trauma therapy, that is based on childhood. Because that was how I coped in a very chaotic household, and so anger is my protection. So when I start to feel that well up now, like you shared, I'm like, OK, what's going on? What part of me feels unsafe, uncertain, ungrounded? And what can I do to possibly ask for help? Now listen, I am not claiming that I am perfect at that. I might still be in slightly larger, well, no, maybe slightly smaller training wheels at this point in time. I think this is a journey, and we all learn how to do this, and we learn who and how to reach out for help. And then there's obviously like, I go, I like you said, I don't wanna look weak. Or I'm afraid of the response. I build up in my head the type of response and judgment that someone else might come back to me with.
And I think many people feel that way. I've had clients where they're afraid to tell me something is going on, and they tell me a month later and I'm like, why didn't you say anything? Oh, I didn't want to bother you. I'm like, I'm here, please don't do that, you are not inconveniencing me. So I just want to reiterate to everyone, and I share this because we all experience this no matter where we are in our lives. I think the one beauty of the Healthy Skin Show is that this is not just about your skin. It's about the quality of your life. And there's so much overlap with mindset growth and the pursuit of how to change your mindset to align with your healing journey.
So I love the fact that you've pointed out that the whole how to change your mindset, I just need to change my mindset. We've got to kind of throw that in the trash can because that's not actually all that helpful. And this explains why when you're like, I'm trying to change my mindset, I'm just gonna change my mindset. I'm gonna have a positive health mindset or open mindset. And then you're like, that doesn't happen?
Brad Bizjack (22:56.356)
Yeah. Doesn't work that way.
Jennifer Fugo (23:13.407)
No. So for somebody who's like, even still, this sounds like a bunch of nonsense. Like, I don't understand, I have had all of this hardship, my skin is a mess. And listen, there are some listeners who are going through really, really extreme health circumstances that, and I will 100% agree with them, has wrecked their quality of life, and has impaired them from being able to work. They've lost marriages and relationships. They cannot get out of bed. They are so ill for varying reasons, whether it's because of something like TSW or they’re having full body infections and whatnot. But it is interesting that not everyone who's experiencing some of these really extreme circumstances gets stuck in the idea, or the attitude or approach, that they deserve this. That somehow they caused this, that they get stuck in like maybe, like you were saying, like the 32 degrees, down in like the depression zone. They do see their circumstance from a different perspective.
So how do we start? If you've got a skeptic, and listen, totally legitimate. I think it's okay to be skeptical, and I'm skeptical of everything. I think that's a good way to be because it helps instill curiosity. And I think respectful skepticism helps us go, well, tell me more about this, well, what if that doesn't work? I think those are great conversations to have because we learn so much about ourselves, and we also learn how the ways we think about things might not be true. So for the skeptic or for someone who's chronically stuck and struggling, maybe they're at that 32 degree mark or they're at 45 degrees, right? Or you're at 65 degrees, like they're kind of stuck somewhere in that zone. Or you've got somebody who maybe is at like 75 and going, you know, I am always wanting to work on myself. Where should they start? What's the first step that could be a worthwhile endeavor for anyone? And I don't know if it's different for people at different stages.
Brad Bizjack (25:32.934)
I think the first thing that's most important to talk about, just to address the skeptic in the room, which I do agree that having some sort of like realism in how you're looking at things is incredibly impactful. But if you're looking at the stuff that we're saying right now, and you're saying, nope, there's no way that's gonna work for me, my question to you would be, how is it going for you? And is it working? Not the strategies of the skin stuff. I'm talking about emotions. How is that going? Because if there's anything I know to be true, you are the creator of your life, you are not the manager of your circumstance. And the minute you take on the identity of creator of your life, you can write a new chapter in that book. And as someone that used to be toxically positive, I was the guy that was bubbly, super happy on the outside, but on the inside, I was dying. I was struggling.
I remember, just to share a quick story, I remember talking to a coach I had and just to check up about how things were going, this is business related, like just about how my business was going, and I didn't hit my goals. And she asked me something, she goes, well, how do you feel about not hitting your goals? I was like, it's fine, it's fine, I'll figure it out, it's totally okay, it's fine. And I was toxically positive, just pretending it was fine, avoiding the problems. And she was like, no, Brad, seriously, tell me. It's all gonna be okay, it's all gonna be okay. And she asked me something really powerful. She said, Brad, what emotion are you avoiding? Is it judgment? Is it worry? Is it anxiety? Is it anger? And I said, I don't get angry. And in that moment, I recognized something so powerful about my life. I had made anger wrong. I had been avoiding anger for years because I saw my mom get angry. And I promised myself I wasn't gonna do that. And so toxic positivity, just be positive and have a better mindset, is a load of nonsense. It's not going to serve you and it will not work.
So to the skeptic, I just wanna honor you that the skepticism you feel in positivity or just elevating your mindset is fair. But I wanna give you some tactical strategies to be able to do something about it. And I think there's one thing that we can talk about now, and then an opportunity to help people even deeper go through this. I want to just, the last thing I think would be very valuable on the show would be the formula for happiness. There's a formula.
Jennifer Fugo (28:11.169)
There's a formula. Really? Okay. I feel like we're going to math class here.
Brad Bizjack (28:19.906)
There's a formula on how to change your mindset effectively. If you think about some area, those listening, think about an area of your life that you are happy with, any area at all. And if I were to ask you why, go ahead and pause this, jot down why. Is it because the way life is aligns with how you think it should be or it's trending there? Happiness, by the way, is where your life conditions match your blueprint. LC equals B. Your life conditions match how you think it should be. The way life is matches your expectations. Unhappiness, if you think about any area of your life that you're unhappy with, go ahead and jot that down. Why? And I'm willing to bet the answer is because the way life is does not match and is not trending towards how you think it should be. If you take a look at an area you are suffering in in your life, like I mentioned, pain in life is guaranteed, suffering's your choice. I'm willing to bet it's because your life conditions don't match your blueprint and you feel helpless to change. That's suffering. It's an equation.
And so how do you deal with it? Well, there's three ways. The first way is where 99% of people live, and that's why 99% of people don't change, and that is blame. They either blame somebody, they blame an event or their skin, they blame the past, or they blame themselves. And the problem with blame is that it doesn't change anything. No matter how much fault you find in somebody else, it doesn't change you. And blaming something else, like an event or something in your body, blaming that, it's really attractive because it means I'm gonna give up responsibility for doing something about it. It allows us to say, I've tried everything. No, it won't work for me. But blame and responsibility are very different things. Just because something is not your fault doesn't mean it's not your responsibility. Blame focuses on the past and what went wrong or is going wrong. Responsibility means the ability to respond. It's your beliefs, your emotions about the thing. So blame is strategy number one. Doesn't work very well, right? It doesn't change anything.
Strategy number two is change your life conditions to match your blueprint. Well, with something chronic, you can't snap your fingers and just do that, right? It doesn't work that way. There's a process and consistency over time, trying different things, to actually get to where you wanna go. And so if you think, okay, I'm just gonna change my life conditions, I'm just gonna be happier, I'm just going to change my skin or whatever it is, it's setting yourself up for failure.
So if those two strategies don't work, then what's the third? And that’s change your blueprint. It changes your expectations. My favorite quote of all time, it changed my life, is “when you trade your expectations for appreciation, your whole life changes in an instant.”
Jennifer Fugo (31:18.669)
Say that again.
Brad Bizjack (31:35.769)
“When you trade your expectations for appreciation, your whole life changes in an instant.” I recognized that my expectations of how life should be, money, health, business, whatever it is, that was the root of suffering. It was because I expected it to be different instead of being grateful for what it was teaching me. Because I am willing to bet that anyone that's going through chronic skin conditions, I'm willing to bet that you have a pretty strong backbone. I'm willing to bet that you've been through some stuff. I'm willing to bet that you show up for people in such a profound way because you know what it feels like to suffer. Every single painful thing has a beautiful side of it as well.
And once we become grateful for our pain, then all of a sudden it doesn't create this big storm of a story and a belief, and we can start to see the way out. It doesn't mean you're gonna snap your fingers and be done with it, you're gonna have to do work at it. But you can start to see that there is a possibility of change when you learn how to change the expectations instead of just trying to snap your fingers and change your skin or blame something else. So if you wanna change your feelings of happiness, change your blueprint.
Jennifer Fugo (32:29.477)
Interesting. I feel like I need an infographic. Like a chart, like a flow chart. Have you ever made a flow chart?
Brad Bizjack (32:42.247)
Do this if you feel that.
Jennifer Fugo (32:58.86)
Yes, do this, and do that. I'm literally serious because I'm a very visual person, so as I was listening, I was like, wait, this goes to that, this goes to that. I like maps, obviously. I feel like you and I could have, like you said, three and a half hours' worth of conversations. And I really appreciate you coming here and spending the time because, obviously, health specifically, skin specifically isn't your focus, but I do believe that this is so intertwined in what my community and my listeners are experiencing every single day.
And this is some of, like, I sometimes say, I can tell you what to do. I can give you a plan, but I can't make you do it. I can't make you want to do it. I can't go to your house and force you to do this. And there are moments when I'm like, look, I'm really sorry, but I don't think I can be of service because it is you and the way you're viewing this that's getting in the way of any progress. And that's a hard thing to say. And it's heartbreaking for me to say, but I can't do anything else. And that's why this is so, so important. And I love the fact that you have a challenge coming up to help people start actually working on this, which I feel like I need to join as well. I think I could benefit from it. So can you talk a little bit about it? I know it's like a challenge, what is that, that's coming up?
Brad Bizjack (34:21.962)
Yeah, that's a great question. Well, everything we talked about today seems great in theory, right? It's like, yeah, cool, that's good stuff, Brad, but motivation and $3 might almost buy you a Starbucks and that's about it, right? So it's not gonna do anything for you long-term just to understand the theory of this. There's a very big difference between knowledge and knowing. Knowledge is a logical understanding, knowing is I've lived it.
And so I started to run into an issue years ago where I would say these things and people would be like, that's motivational. But then they didn't really change from it. And I started to ask myself, well, how do I actually create lasting change in people? I need to give them an experience. I need to give them an experience where they actually live this and see the results in real-time. And so if any of this today, you related to any of it, or you feel like you could benefit from doing some of the things that we talked about, I'm hosting a free five-day challenge starting on Monday. It's called the success accelerator. Now success is based on everyone's unique definition, right? For some people that's monetary, for other people that's skin-related, for other people it's weight loss or weight gain. It just depends, right? There's so many definitions of success, and who am I to say what you should want? You want what you want. And so based on whatever you are after in your life right now, we are gonna go through and identify, what are those subconscious limiting beliefs? What are the limiting emotional patterns that are getting in your way from getting there? Because if you change the roots, you change the fruit. You change what's going on behind the scenes subconsciously, all of a sudden you start making progress in the 3D, in real life.
And so if you are related to any of this, it's totally free, it's five days where each day I'm gonna go through and give some content and then give you a challenge that you're gonna do in your life to actually transform it, actually experience the change that we're talking about today. So it starts on Monday. And just for context, this challenge has served over 60,000 people from all over the world. It's helped so many people change their life. And one thing that I think you'll notice that you will benefit from so much is that it's not just skin conditions. It will absolutely help you with how you view that and what to do about those things emotionally. But it's also gonna impact your marriage. It's also gonna impact your parenting. It's also gonna impact just your general way of being, your happiness, your success in your career or at home. It's gonna impact your health, your fitness. It's gonna impact every single part of your life. So we're gonna get to the deep stuff that most people avoid and give you a transformation to make these changes last forever so that you can break through and live the quality of life you deserve. So it starts on Monday, it's totally free. Jen's got the link for you.
Jennifer Fugo (37:02.14)
I do.
Brad Bizjack (37:03.498)
And I'm excited to serve you inside the Success Accelerator.
Jennifer Fugo (37:05.096)
And I will tell you that I want to encourage everybody to join me because I know that all of the work that I constantly do and put into my own, like I think about how I show up to serve clients. I show up to serve the team that is the Healthy Skin Show and our clinic and everything, and how we serve clients, and how we serve the viewers and the listeners of this show. And every ounce of work that I put into, I don't want to say undoing, but partly understanding, like you were saying, understanding where is this coming from? What am I avoiding? Those are powerful changes that ripple through your life. And I've shared with my community some of the things that have happened to me in realizing that I don't need to think about things in black and white anymore. And that drastically changed so much in my life. Realizing that I was catastrophizing most of the time, that changed a lot in my marriage and how I show up as a wife to my husband. And just having these ahas and realizing patterns that I didn't see has been transformative on so many levels and so I'm super excited about this.
Thank you, Brad, so much for being here. So for those of you listening to this, you can head to skinterrupt.com/success. We'll also put all the links into the show notes as well to make it super easy for you guys to join me with Brad. Brad can lead us through all of this. And it's only five days. I love that you're able to help people experience so much change. And like you said, I want to underscore here, everybody here listens to this show because they want to get to the root cause of things. And you said, this is getting to the root underneath the mindset piece, right? That actually is very overwhelming. This is a root cause approach to addressing why you feel the way you feel, not being able to show up as your best self. So I love that, Brad, thank you so much. Where can we find you? Because I know too, you have a podcast as well that people might love to tune into.
Brad Bizjack (39:25.38)
Yeah, absolutely. There's two places. One is a podcast called the Rewire Your Mind Podcast. And the second is just Instagram. It's just @BradBizjack on Instagram. And feel free to DM me and share what you got from the show. I'm just happy to be an open book for anything you're going through.
Jennifer Fugo (39:39.516)
Awesome, well thank you so much for joining us and I hope that you'll come back sometime.
Brad Bizjack (39:44.143)
Of course, I would love to, my friend.
Jennifer Fugo, MS, CNS
Jennifer Fugo, MS, CNS is an integrative Clinical Nutritionist and the founder of Skinterrupt. She works with adults who are ready to stop chronic gut and skin rash issues by discovering their unique root cause combo and take custom actions with Jennifer's support to get clear skin (and their life) back.